Doesn't that just sum it up for us first time mom's. Well I've been a little hard (maybe very hard) on myself not being able to do it all as a mom, wife, and trying to find work on the side. Before I gave birth, hell even before I got pregnant I tried to research as much I possible could about being a mom and raising a child so I could be as prepared as one could. I knew it was going to be tough, wonderful, stressful, and fulfilling all wrapped up into this little bundle of baby but I what I didn't expect was the amount of judgment I would place on myself trying to be and do everything perfectly-- but perfect is unachievable. Everything I have read from A-Z about parenting and the do and don't topics it can all come down on a mom like a ton of bricks leaving her feeling like she's not doing the best she can. So I've come to the conclusion to do what's best for us as a whole. There's going to be times where I will have to put my baby down in his bouncy chair so I can run to the bathroom and he may cry. There will be times where he is inconsolable and there's not much I can do but to comfort him and let him know I'm here. What I'm trying to say is that it's ok if I stumble as a first time mom and even if I have another child I will make mistakes here and there but as long as I do my best to enforce the fact he is loved we'll all be ok. I think as first time parents we are bombarded by so much advice from friends, family, and experts it's hard to figure out what to do and apply in hopes of not screwing up our child in the long run. It's good to take all advice with a grain of salt sort of speak and even decline some advice that is very outdated. All children are different and so are families and one method of parenting that seems to be great for one maybe be great for another. Mom's should ban together and not tear each other down and realize we're all in the same boat learning, growing, and trying to raise a wonderful human being in the processes of it all.
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Submitted by FTM on Fri, 10/23/2009 - 21:41
